The C.A.R.E. Relational Assessment

This assessment is the creation of Dr. Amy Banks and is also available on her website. For more information about Relational-Cultural Theory (RCT), visit the Bloomington Center for Connection

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Take the Assessment

Enter the names of up to five people and respond to each of the questions below on a scale of 1-5 for each.

  • 1 = None or never
  • 2 = Rarely or minimal
  • 3 = Some of the time
  • 4 = More often than not; medium high
  • 5 = Usually; very high



SCORE

CODE

1 I trust this person with my feelings.

Calm

2 This person trusts me with their feelings.

Calm

3 I feel safe being in conflict with this person.

Calm

4 This person treats me with respect.

Calm

5 In this relationship I feel calm.

Calm
Accepted

6 I can count on this person to help me out in an emergency.

Calm
Accepted

7 In this relationship, it's safe to acknowledge our differences.

Calm
Accepted

8 When I am with this person, I feel a sense of belonging.

Accepted

9 Despite our different roles, we treat each other as equals.

Accepted

10. I feel valued in this relationship.

Accepted

11 There is give and take in this relationship.

Accepted

12 This person is able to sense how I feel.

Resonant

13 I am able to sense how this person feels.

Resonant

14 With this person I have more clarity about who I am.

Resonant

15 I feel that we "get" each other.

Resonant

16 I am able to sense that my feelings impact this person.

Resonant

17 This relationship helps me be more productive in my life.

Energetic

18 I enjoy the time I spend with this person.

Energetic

19 Laughter is a part of this job.

Energetic

20 In this relationship, I feel more energetic.

Energetic

SAFETY GROUP SCORE

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Calm

Your score is 0

135 - 175 : High
100 - 134 : Moderate
below 100 : Low

Accepted

Your score is 0

135 - 175 : High
100 - 134 : Moderate
below 100 : Low

Resonant

Your score is 0

95 - 125 : High
70 - 94 : Moderate
below 70 : Low

Energetic

Your score is 0

75 - 100 : High
55 - 74 : Moderate
below 54 : Low

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