The first group therapy I participated in was the result of a bargain with my therapist. I was in individual therapy for a while, circling the same themes, feeling stuck in patterns I couldn’t quite shift. Wishing for a little more insight. My therapist gently suggested group therapy, and I… Read More »Showing up for connection
As the world becomes increasingly complex—social upheaval, political strife, and personal stress—it’s tempting to withdraw and attempt to manage alone. However, Relational-Cultural Theory (RCT) emphasizes that connection is not just beneficial, it’s essential. Relationships provide the structure for healing, resilience, and sustainable well-being. The CARE Assessment, developed by Dr. Amy… Read More »CARE-ing for your mental health
Growth-fostering relationships require a willingness to step into the unknown together. RCT provides tools and support to help couples lean into this messiness, understanding that vulnerability is a pathway to deeper connection.
Avoiding a “Model Me” Disconnect In Relational-Cultural Theory (RCT), Maureen Walker’s concepts of “Model Me” and “Not Me” describe the internalized narratives we carry about who we believe we should be and who we believe we must never be. They are more about how we are perceived than how we… Read More »Relational Parenting TGNC Kids
Countering Fear-Based Narratives with Relational Wisdom Fear is a powerful motivator. It fuels defensiveness, reinforces hierarchies, and creates division with ease. In a rapidly changing world, fear-based narratives like those promoted by figures such as Jordan Peterson, can seem appealing. These narratives often offer a sense of order and certainty… Read More »Neuroscience and Relational Wisdom
Connection, not control Neuroscience is a great tool for understanding human meaning-making. It helps us map our inner workings, offering insight into how our brains respond to stress, relationships, to exclusion, and more. But like the saying goes, neuroscience can be used to hammer when really what’s needed is a… Read More »Neuroscience for Connection
Therapy isn’t about proving the validity of connection through science; it’s about creating growth-fostering relationships that honor our shared humanity. Neuroscience, when used thoughtfully, can help illuminate the path forward without overshadowing the relational wisdom that guides us.
Burnout, then, is not simply an individual failing or a byproduct of working too hard. It is a signal that something in our relational ecosystem needs attention.
When we think about therapy, we often associate it with mental health diagnoses like anxiety or depression. But what if you’re struggling in ways that don’t fit into a diagnostic box? Job stress, loneliness, relationship difficulties, a big loss, or a sense of being stuck—these challenges don’t always come with… Read More »Therapy Without Diagnosis
How To Keep Going On Monday evenings I’m lucky enough to get and talk with one of my best friends about whatever comes up. We record it, and sometimes it turns out to be something worth sharing with the world. Sometimes it’s an in-depth discussion about Dick Van Dyke being… Read More »Love Needs Fighters